Self Construction Tips
by Shikhar Prajapati Motivational Speaker and Corporate Trainer
Self Construction is made up of three parts, like three layers of a cake. The first of these parts is your Self- Ideal. This is the vision or perfect description of the person that you would most like to be in every respect. This ideal images exerts a powerful influence on your behavior and on the way you think about yourself. Your self-ideal is a mixture of the qualities that you admire most in other people, living and dead. It is the sum of your dominant aspirations. It is your vision of what the perfect person should be.
Exceptional men and women have very clear self- ideals, toward which they are constantly striving. They set high standards for themselves and strive to live up to them. And so can you. The more clear you are about the person you want to become, the more likely it is that, day by day, you will evolve into that person. You will rise to the height of dominant aspirations for yourself. You will become what you must admire. Unsuccessful and unhappy men and women have very vague ideals, or in most cases, no self-ideals at all. They give little or no thought to the person they want to be or to the qualities that they would like to develop in themselves. Their growth and evolution eventually slows and stops. They get stuck in a mental groove and they stay there. They lose all motivation of self- improvement. As you clarify your fundamental values and work to integrate them into everything you do, your personality improves and because your outer life reflects your inner life, your work, your relationships and every aspect of your outer life improves as well.
The second part of your Self Construction is your Self-image. Your Self- image is the way you see yourself and the way you think about yourself, as you go about your daily activities. Your self image is often your inner mirror, into which you look to see how you are supposed to behave or perform in a particular situation. You always behave consistently with the pictures that you hold of yourself on the inside. Because of this, you can improve your performance by deliberately changing the mental pictures that you hold about yourself in that area. This process of self-image modification is one of the fastest and most dependable ways to improve your performance. As you begin to see yourself and think about yourself as more proficient and confident, your behavior becomes more focused and effective.
When you purposefully change your self-image, you will walk, talk, act and feel better than your ever have before. You will change both your personality and your results by changing your mental images.
The third part of your self-concept is your Self-esteem. Your self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. It is the emotional element of your personality, and it is the foundation quality of high performance. It is the key to cheerfulness and personal effectiveness. It is the source of the energy, enthusiasm, strength and confidence that powers your personality and makes your into a high achieving man or woman. When you feel good about yourself, you perform better. And when you perform well, you feel good about yourself. Both are essential. The best measure of self- esteem is how much you like yourself. The more you like yourself, the better you do at everything you put your mind to. The more you like yourself , the more confidence you have, the more positive is your attitude, the healthier and more enthusiastic you are and the happier you are overall.
“I like myself! I like myself!I like myself!”
Or better yet, you can say “I love myself” I love myself! I love myself!” Liking yourself is very healthy. It is the key to personal effectiveness and to happy relationships with others. The more you like and respect yourself, the better you perform in everything you do. You are more relaxed and positive. You are more confident about your abilities. You make fewer mistakes. You have more energy and you are more creative.
Shikhar Prajapati (India’s favourite Motivational Speaker & Corporate Trainer) serving since 2001 and passionately trained more than 3 lakh people.