Tips for Good Conversation

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Tips for Good Conversation

By Motivational Speaker in Rajasthan Jaipur Jodhpur Kota Bikaner Ajmer Udaipur

Tips for Good Conversation which will help you to be a better conversationalist in any work or social situation –

  1.             Cue the Subject to the Listener-

The first rule of good conversation is to cue the subject to your listener. Talk to people about subjects that interest them. Any subjects, including the subjects that used to be taboo in conversation, are okay if they are of interest to the person you are speaking with.But if you see that you are getting no response to a particular subject, back off quickly and talk about something else.

One of the best ways to open a conversation is simply to ask the person, “What sort of work do you do?”

            Most people consider their personal career path to be one of the most fascinating stories ever told. Whenever the speaker stops, you can keep the conversation or momentum going by asking, and then what did they do?” Asking people, ‘How did you get into that business, anyway?” and then what did you do?” will enable you to keep a conversation going almost indefinitely.

  1.             The second rule for Good Conversation is to Take Your Turn

            If ever you find that you have talked for  3 minutes straight, without question or comment from your listeners, you can pretty sure that you are talking on a subject of interest only to yourself. We all make this mistake. Remember, if other people are not contributing, what you are doing is making a speech, not holding a conversation.

            Taking your turn also means not interrupting when people are talking. And when you are interrupted, and when someone else joins the group, the most polite thing to do is also the hardest; shut up. Don’t go back and finish a story unless you are asked to do so.

            Each person has an opportunity both to speak and to listen. If either party is deprived of the opportunity to speak, the conversation becomes one-sided and the person talking will be thought of as a bore.

III.            The third rule for Good Conversation is to Think Before You Speak-

            Avoid saying anything that would make someone uncomfortable, unhappy or self-conscious. Be tactful and aware of the feelings and sensitivities of the others.

For good conversation, respect other people’s privacy and reserve a little privacy for yourself. Some people get into the habit of interviewing other people, and asking them a lot of questions whose answers are really none of their business. Keep your questions general and impersonal and give the other person the opportunity to decide whether or not her or she wants to open up to you.

  1.  Finally to be an Excellent Conversationalist, Be Natural-

            Be yourself. Let your personality flow. Only say what you feel comfortable saying. If for any reason, something inside you tells you not to speak up, listen to your inner voice. Speak easily and spontaneously, without trying to impress or be impresses by anyone. Just say what comes naturally to your mind.

            The very best conversationalists and the most enjoyable people to be around are those who are relaxed, positive and complete natural.

 Shikhar Prajapati

(Motivational Speaker and Corporate Trainer)

 

 

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Whatever you Give, you get the Same

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Whatever you Give, you get the Same 

by Motivational Speaker in Punjab Ludhiana Amritsar Jalandhar

To raise the self-esteem of others use the principle of the boomerang. This principle states that “whatever genuine emotion you express toward and other person will boomerang back on you, sooner or later.

Shakespeare wrote – “The fragrance of the rose lingers on the hand that casts it.”

Whenever you express a positive sentiment to or about some else, it will eventually come back to you, like a boomerang. If you express a negative thought or idea, the same principle hold true, so make sure that what you say about others is what you want to have come back.

Resist the temptation to criticise, condemn or complain. Practice being agreeable and accepting. Express appreciation, approval and admiration. Listen attentively to others when they speak, and remember the boomerang. If you do all these things you will make others feel terrific about themselves and you will be welcome wherever you go.

Shikhar Prajapati

(MotivationalSpeaker and Corporate Trainer)

Shikhar Prajapati is  India’s favourite Motivational Speaker and Corporate Trainer who has successfully trained more than 7 lakh people since 2001.

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How to Listen

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How to Listen 

by Motivational Speaker in Odisha  Bhubaneshwar Cuttack Rourkela

 

(a)    Listen Attentively

The first part of Active Listening is to listen attentively. Face the speaker directly, rather than at an angle. Lean slightly forward, toward the speaker. If you are standing up, shift your weight onto the balls of your feet so that you energy projects forward. Watch the mouth and eyes of the other person closely. This tells the speaker that you are paying complete attention to what he or she is saying.

(b) Listen without Interrupting

            The second part of Active Listening is to listen without interrupting. Most people don’t really listen when another is speaking. They are so busy thinking about what they are going to say when the other person takes a breath that they seldom hear what the other person is really saying.

            Whenever a speaker senses that the listener is just waiting for a chance to jump in, or that the other person’s thoughts are somewhere else, perhaps busily preparing a response, the speaker feels that the other person is tuned to him or her and to what he or she is saying, the speaker feels more valuable. So listen patiently, listen calmly, listen as if there was nothing else in the world that you would rather hear what this person is saying, for as long as this person takes to say it.

(c) Pause before Replying

            The 3rd part of Active Listening is to pause before replying. When a speaker finishes speaking, pause for 3 to 5 seconds before saying anything. In this pause, 3 things will happen.

            First, you will actually hear the other person better. When you allow a few seconds for the other person’s remarks to sink in, you actually understand the other person more completely.

            Second, when you pause, you avoid interrupting the other person if he or she has just paused to collect his or her thoughts. When you pause for 3-5 seconds, you give the other person an opportunity to continue rather than cutting him or her off. There are few things more irritating or insulting than being interrupted in the middle of a thought or in the middle of a sentence.

            Third, when you pause before replying, you make it clear, with your silence, that you consider what has just been said to be important. You are giving it careful consideration. It is a great compliment to the speaker to have the listener sit quietly and think about his or her remarks before responding, whatever the response may be.

(d) Question for Clarification

            The fourth part of Good Listening is to question for clarification. Ask questions to ensure that you fully understand what the other person has said. When you assume you understand, without checking, you very often don’t understand what the other person has said at all, This is especially true in conversation between men and women.

            Perhaps the best way to expand way to expand a conversation, increase your opportunities to listen and improve your understanding is by the use of an open minded questions.

            An open ended question is one that cannot be answered with a “yes” or a “no”. Open ended questions begin with. The additional benefit of asking open ended questions is that you get more opportunity to listen, more opportunity to build trust, and more opportunity to fully understand what the other person is thinking and feeling.

(e) Feed back the Person’s words to Him –

            The fifth part of Active Listening is to feedback the person’s words to him. Summary what he  has said in your own words. When you summarise and feed it back, you compliment the speaker. You show how closely you have been paying attention. Infact, until you can feedback a speaker’s meaning correctly, you have not really understood.

                        Try this when another person finishes speaking. Pause for 3 to 5 seconds and then say, “Let me make sure that I understand you. What you are saying is this.” And then go and to feed it back in your own words.

                        Whenever you make the effort to listen so attentively that you are able to feed  a person’s words back to him or her, you increase your ability  to communicate. You build greater trust between the two of you. You build higher self-esteem in the other person, and you develop self-discipline in yourself.

Remember, you never learn anything while your mouth is open. When you are speaking, all you can say is what you already know. But when you are listening, it is possible for you to learn something new.

Shikhar Prajapati

(Motivational Speaker and Corporate Trainer)

 

 

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Benefits of Listening

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Benefits of Listening By Motivational Speaker in Nagaland Kohima Dimapur

* Listening Builds Trust

Whenever someone listens to us, we trust that other person more. The fastest way for two people to build trust between them is for each to listen attentively and appreciatively to the other person. When you listen attentively, the other person likes and trust you far more than if you don’t. He is then more open to being influenced by you.

 * Listening Builds Self-esteem

When you Listen carefully and attentively to a person, his Self-esteem goes up. Whenever anyone listens to you very carefully, your self-esteem goes up as well. You feel more important. You feel that you are More Valuable Person.

* Listening Builds Self-Discipline

It requires wonderful personal mastery and self-control to listen attentively to another person. The average person speaks at about 150 words per minute, while you can listen at the rate of almost 600 words per minute. Active Listening requires that you can control you attention, and keep yourself focused on the person speaking. The more you can discipline yourself to listen without distraction, the more effective you will became in other areas of your life as well.

 

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(Motivational Speaker andCorporate Trainer)

 

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How to make others feel important

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Give Attention and make others feel important. You always give your attention to that which you most value, to that which most interests you, to that which is most important to you. Your attention is your life. Wherever your attention goes, your thoughts, your feelings, your life goes also.

In your relationships with others, the amount of attention you pay to them is the chief indicator of how important they are to you. You always give more of your attention to the people and the things that you value the most. The opposite of attention is indifference. You ignore the people and things you neither value nor appreciate.

 

When you pay attention to a person, you are saying – I value you and I consider you to be important. When you ignore a person, you are saying – I consider you to be unimportant and of little value. The every act of ignoring a person lowers his or her self-esteem. Indifference often makes him or her feel angry and defensive.

 

A major cause of negative emotions is the feeling that we are being ignored by people. Being ignored, whether by a spouse, a boss or even a waiter in a restaurant, makes us feel devalued and diminished. This is why people who are effective in human relations are very sensitive to, and aware of, the need to pay proper attention to others.

 

How do you pay proper attention to other people? You  practice the “white magic” of listening. Listening is the true measure of attention on human relations. Listening  is the way you show how much you value another person and what the other person in saying. It is only when you listen, and listen well, to another person that you demonstrate to the other person that he or she is valuable and important. The best leaders and salespeople, the best managers and friends, are all excellent and skilled listeners.

 

 

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Admire Others by Motivational Speaker in Meghalaya Shillong

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Use Admiration to raise the self- esteem of others and to make them feel important. Whenever you  admire another person for something he has accomplished, for someone personality’s quality or for some possession, you raise his self-esteem. Admiration is a powerful tool in human relations. “Everybody likes a Compliment.” You can use admiration almost anywhere and in almost any situation. You can be virtually guaranteed that the other person will feel more important as a result.

            You can admire personality qualities. When you compliment a person for being punctual, or for being generous, or for being persistent or being determined, you make that person feel more valuable and important. We are all proud of our positive qualities. We are usually proud of what we have become. When other people recognise and admire us for these qualities, we feel better about ourselves.

            You can also admire people’s belongings. People often invest a lot of emotion in the things they acquire. For example – most people put a lot of thought into the furniture and fixtures they purchase for their homes. You can never go wrong complimenting a person on how attractive his or her home or living room looks.

            People also put a lot of thought into their clothes. You are guaranteed to make a women feel better about herself by complimenting her on any article of her clothing or accessories.  You can achieve the same effect with a man by complimenting him on his clothes, especially his hoes or his tie. Men usually spend a lot of time thinking about the ties they wear and selecting shoes they buy. They will be both surprised and happy when you admire them.

            You can admire people’s accomplishments, as well. You can compliment them on the education they have acquired or the position they have arrived at. You can admire the business they have built, or anything else that they have achieved.

            Admitting peoples’ accomplishments raises their self-esteem and makes them feel good about you. If you sincerely want to admire another person for something, you will find endless opportunities to do so. Everyone has accomplished something that is worthy of your admiration. Your job is to find it and compliment him or her on it.

 

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Praise People for Developing their Self Confidence by Motivational Speaker in Manipur Imphal

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To raise the self-esteem of others and to make them feel more important – Express approval to them on every possible occasion. The expression of approval or praise is one of the faster and most expectable ways to make people feel happy and proud. Giving praise and recognition to other people is the surest way to boost their self-esteem, to strengthen their behaviour and to make them want to help you and cooperate with you.

Whenever a person receives praise from another, his self-esteem goes up. Catch the people doing something right and the more you do, the more effective and competent they feel, and the more likely they are to repeat the behaviours that earned the praise.

            When people are genuinely praised by someone they respect, their enthusiasm and awareness increase and they feel much better about themselves. There is almost nothing that has greater power to raise people’s self-confidence and to make them feel good about themselves than the sincere expression of praise and approval for something that they have done or said.

            If you want to a person to develop a habit, such as cleaning up his bedroom or coming to work on time, you should praise the person every single time he does. This form of praising is called “continuous reinforcement”.  If you continuously praise the new behaviour you want to see repeated, ultimately the person will repeat it so often that he will make it a habit.

            For example, to get your children to clean up their rooms, praise them every single time they cleans up even the smallest thing. Make a big deal about it. Keep this up until the children start to clean their rooms voluntarily, or atleast with little urging. Once they have gotten into the habit of cleaning up their rooms, you only need to give them praise or approval every third or fourth time.

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